The pangs of loneliness are very familiar to most of you. Today, the day you call (St) Valentine’s day, is a day of hunger and sadness for many, who, just like, around your Christmas season, have to face a world in which they feel very alone, without close family or friends, or a lover. There is a sense of isolation that is part of the Human condition, for, in truth, when it boils down to it, each one is really alone within their own universe, within the mental and emotional structures of the psyche and the consciousness that has developed around you and colors your world view. So, this underlying reality is heightened many fold, when your world celebrates these times with gifts and flowers, feasts and special ceremonies and with what is supposed to be a joyous gathering with a special someone or a special group of friends or family.
It does not make it easier to understand that loneliness is an endemic state of affairs and is part and parcel of the human condition. Even within the most seemingly loving, harmonious and ideal relationships and family structures, there often lurk hidden components that can grow like a canker in the blood, and suddenly, at some undetermined point, rear their ugly heads as a form of cancer or disease or eruption of dissatisfaction, anger or disaster. For human life is not only a mystery, but is a territory for a journey of growth, and if there were no challenges, no thorns to the rose bush, and always love and light, the lifetime may seem sweet but would not yield growth and spiritual development. There would be little learning, therefore not much advancement for the soul.
So what is the lesson in the field of loneliness? What is the seed that grows and what is the nature of the plant and the blossoms and the fruit of this condition. Shakespeare has said in King Lear, “The ripeness is all.” There is a deep experience within the feeling of being alone that is accompanied by self blame, self loathing and self denigration. There is a sense unworthiness, of being a victim and of being down on your luck, not a pleasant state of affairs and not an easy experience to combat or contradict if you do not have a powerful practice or strong belief in something like a Higher Power that is loving and embracing and forgiving. It is often in these moments of feeling so isolated, that one can choose to end it all, to take their life and sometimes that of another with them, because the desperation and sense of powerlessness and worthlessness is so great.
There is a need to develop a practice of caring, of community and of cultivating a strong intuition for your friends and neighbors, because a smile, a kind word, a cup of tea or coffee or a walk together can make all the difference in someone’s life. It is vital to develop a practice for yourself in which you grow your faith, in which you undertake to negate the voices of put down in your head, to connect with the body mind and develop a relationship with something creative and life enhancing; to break old patterns, to develop resolve to end habits of addiction that numb the soul and the emotions and allow the presence of demons, be they real or metaphoric, to take over your life. You have been given the power of choice, of decision, of wonder and miracle to allow you to shift these old patterns and remove from yourself the burdens of old worry and struggle that have been placed on your shoulders and accepted by you as yours, unwittingly, when you were too young to know the difference.
We urge you to reach out to someone, to find help and to recognize that there can be a difference between loneliness or isolation and solitude. In solitude, you begin to create a relationship with yourself of love, of admiration, of gratitude and of sovereignty. You become your own best friend, You find things that excite and energize yourself, and you begin to recognize that you have the power, that there are guardians and angels that you can turn to and develop a relationship with, who will steer you in a direction of growth and deeper satisfaction. We want you to know that life is connected, that you are immortal and infinite, that you are a part of a greater whole and that you are indispensable to the greater good of the whole, of the planet and your community and that this feeling of being isolated is a wake up call to change the direction of your life from feeling like a victim to an empowered, sovereign being with the self authority to make healthy decisions. You may need to change the environment in which you live, the people you see, and certainly the attitudes that you have habitually seen your life and the world through, but it must be done, it can be done, and you are the one who must choose. The simple practice of exercise, of walking in Nature, running, swimming, sports, of some kind, will bring a huge shift, because you are engaging your body and your mind and your emotions.
We understand that loneliness is not fun, not pleasant and feels lousy. It can be overcome. Imagine what it would be like for you if someone reached out to you for help, for a kind word, a listening ear, a cup of tea, a little bit of the time of day, as they say. You would not begrudge them. So imagine that you can ask for that, to be heard once in a while. Seek help. Recognize that beneath the skin, everyone is hungry for attention, for love, connection and kindness. You may have had a rough childhood, but you have many shining examples of how people have turned their lives around. Become one of them. Become an example to some kid of how you overcame the sense of loneliness and developed a rich, fertile life, enjoying your alone time as a rewarding experience and having compassion for others. We are angels. We love you and want to help, so reach out to us in prayer. Give your troubles to God or whatever you think of as a Higher Power. You will begin to notice. difference. You will hear our answers. Your life will change.